I would like to tell those who will possibly feel irritated upon reading this piece that I will never apologize for my words; and no power can make me do so. Millions of female children are getting married. According to Murat Yetkin's work on Hurriyet Daily, each minute around 27 female children are getting married. I don't want to keep it narrow, just because as many male children are also forced to marry. Turkey is trying to get a full member of EU; its foundation principles are based on 'being a western country'; the result is that we are competing in the lowest of low. What makes this sickening culture still thrive even though millions object to it?
In general terms, majority of Turkish people are peasant or coming from a peasant family -taking into consideration my family still lives in a village- In an average Turkish gene there is nomadism in one form or another. We can easily see that in the last six decades it has been promoted to move from village to a metropol; vice versa is viewed nonsense. Therefore in order to keep their sons with them considering their senile and highly probable need for care, rural families would rather force their son to settle down next to -hierarchically below- them. This process is carried out 'before he starts to see things'. You may pay a visit to villages in Turkey and see some 20-year olds with a little guy beside them calling 'Baba(Dad)'. Most probably you have been able to grasp that young man should have married to a 'younger' lady just to enhance control over her. Years passing, and a big family with a dozen of children live so happily, of course not in a sense that we fools can understand.
Girls? Not a big deal... In most of the Middle Eastern countries they are deemed to be worthless goods that should exchange as soon as possible. If you are westerner, it must be hard to visualize it; so, I will illustrate it. How soon that could be? Well... There used to be some case namely 'Beşik Kertmesi', by which the children are in a way 'marked as engaged' before they were born, or a couple of months after they were. Crazy, isn't it? In some part of Balıkesir (a Western town in Turkey) a father agreed her daughter to marry a man just in return for his debt. Ages? Female: 13 Male:30s. This happened in front of me in 2006. By the way 6 years after that event our schools started to use computer aided education programs as a token of modernity. After a certain age, female child is seen as a burden in a villager family; before that age as a pet.
One more gory fact of modern Turkey is 'namus (virtue)'. A lady is expected to be virgin while getting married; but it is not even questioned when it comes to male. This may seem normal to a psycho eye, take this. Some months ago, a young lady -commonly considered too old in Turkey, though- got divorced her husband whom she was most probably smoothly persuaded to marry. She came to his 'father's home' which had never ever been hers. In her days her cousins raped her. She could not tell her father. She was pregnant, and had to tell then. The family council that is excessively religious decided she was guilty and must righteously be killed. They did so. Oh, her guilt? Come on she was female. Isn't it the biggest mistake in Middle East, blessed by all Gods.
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